Friday, October 21, 2011

Bullies

My original post is here, and it still breaks my heart to think that my sweet little monkey went through what he did!!

Stop Bullying: Speak Up



**Re-Posted in Support of the Stop Bullying Speak Up Campaign**
This is what we spent our Friday night dealing with, below is the exact semi-edited version of the e-mail sent to the principals of the school and the teacher. The remainder of the weekend entailed preparing my son to change classes and preparing both of them in appropriate ways to conduct themselves around said child, i.e. find the nearest teacher and asked to be escorted to the principals office to report the encounter, and if there are no teachers in the hall or near by, yell at the top of your lungs " Leave me alone" while you find the nearest adult in the school. Horrifying if you ask me to have to explain the gravity of this situation to a 5 yo and a 6 yo!!

After talking to my son this evening about his day at school there were some very disturbing things he told me. First, he said that the class was separated into groups to take bathroom breaks and “I” was in his group. During their trip to the bathroom, I (we will save his name from Internet viewers) started a conversation with Anthony and said, "I will beat your brother up." Anthony's response was "He is tougher than you." “I” continued by saying, "No he's not, I will bring a knife in my pocket and I will stab your brother and kill him."

With everything that has gone on this year between these two; I was assured that my child was going to be safe and that the two boys would be separated. I understand that you have separated them during PE, Music and Art. It seems as though this is not enough. Not only has he already attacked one of my children on several occasions, but he is now threatening my other son. “I” continues to taunt Anthony by whispering "boobies" during transition periods and while the teacher is testing other students. Most of ”I”’s behaviors have not shown any improvement through out the school year, in fact they are proving to be more violent.

This situation was brought to all of our attentions with Anthony being tripped by “I”, resulting in a broken nose. I am certain that this was discussed with Mr. S the day following the initial incident. After talking to Anthony on a regular basis regarding “I”, it became apparent that we had a "bully" we were dealing with. A few more calls were made to Mr. S to discuss what was going on in the class, i.e. tripping, hitting, kicking, and naughty language being used. Ms. B became involved after we were told of the naughty language and some instances where “I” was throwing basketballs at Anthony's private areas during PE. I was informed the children would be talked to and that “I”’s parents would also be notified of what was going on. Shortly after that, there was a conference scheduled as a result of a highly disturbing and graphic picture drawn by a child in Anthony's class. At this time there were a few other instances that were brought to Ms. B's attention regarding events that transpired earlier that same week. She took note of the allegations and informed us that she would begin an investigation. We have already seen that this child has no problem fashioning a weapon out of a paper clip and using that against Anthony, I have not seen anything this year to show me that “I”’s actions and behaviors are being watched closely and have no reason to believe that he is fabricating the story of bringing a knife to school.

In a time where guns and knives at school are plastered all over the news I cannot be certain that we are far from that in this situation. I want my children in an environment that is safe and secure. I am at a point where I do not know what to do. As parents we have to trust that our children are safe at school and that if they are in an unsafe or uncomfortable situation the teachers and staff at school are caring for them and will protect them from other students. The bullying has continued to progress and we need to resolve this situation fully. Time after time I am told “we are doing all we can do.” Something has to be done before another child has to endure what Anthony has or worse. I am astonished that this is something I even have to discuss regarding Kindergarten aged children.

It has been explained to me that this is not a common occurrence for children of this age, I believe the exact words were “We have never had to deal with a situation like this with children of this age” and “We don’t have an alternative learning center for kindergarten, if this were first grade we would have different options.” We have tried following all the appropriate channels of reporting these instances to come to resolution. My only next option is to contact the district office to get help from them, contact a lawyer to further understand my rights a parent and my child’s rights as a student, and to contact law enforcement regarding the threats and assaults against my children. Obviously these are not the most ideal options for all of the parties involved, however, at this point they are not out of the picture and it is beginning to seem like my only option to keep my children safe.

After all that, I read today on Amy's blog, of this tragedy.

I have to say they may not condone prayer in school but there will certainly be a lot of it for the rest of this year at least!! Here is my prayer for today, for everyone to have a better week and all kids to be safe in their school!

**Re-Posted in Support of the Stop Bullying Speak Up Campaign**

Thursday, October 20, 2011

Life just passes us by

It seems like I spend most of my time running around, always in a rush, like my head just doesn't stop spinning. Life has become a delicate balancing act of what I need to do right now, and what can wait until tomorrow. The sad thing is I feel like I am missing out on a lot.

Everyday, normal, sit down, calm, laugh, sing, dance... my list could go on!! For now my goal is to spend a little extra time up front organizing, so that I have the time to sit, laugh, sing, dance, bake cookies, or snuggle in bed with the kiddos to watch a movie.

Last night we had our first "time out" and not the bad kind either. The "we are gonna take time out to be silly, have fun, and ignore bed time" kind of "time out".

With the cooler weather (Ya'll it's down right chilly - the low was like 53!!) I made a run by the store to pick up some hot chocolate and marshmallows. We got home, cleaned up, ate dinner and got ready for bed. Then we grabbed the blankets and all sat out on the patio with the lights out drinking hot chocolate and looking at the stars.

It was fun!! We will be having lots more "time outs" in our future!!

Thursday, September 15, 2011

Catch Up

The first day of school has come and gone, I am now on class three of the beginning of a new journey to finally get my degree, Mac has taken a trip to the vet, Jenna has moved up to the Pre-School 1 class, I have gotten an awesome opportunity at work and life is over all quite well.

The first day of school was great, the boys like their teachers. There was a minor hiccup that required me to request that AJ - who speaks English well - be removed from the ESL class and put in a class that is better suited to his learning style. Jay did come home the first week with a note saying that he is very silly and very talkative, but frankly that does not surprise me. Had he come home with no note I would have been.

My classes are going well, I am so glad that the format is one class at a time, even though each class is crammed into a five week period, this seems to work much better for me than a traditional semester style course schedule would. So far...3.87 GPA!! Woohoo!!!

Mac received a clean bill of health from the vet, who was quite smitten with Jenna and gave her three toys for Mac for FREE. He does have some knee condition that could require surgery much later on down the road, but other than that they estimated he was about 18 months old, well enough to be neutered, and only suggested he gain about a pound.

Jenna is tall for her age and fits right in with her new class (they are all 6 months to a year older than she is). She is so incredible sassy and has taken up being the teacher's assistant, scolding her classmates and ordering them to sit in time-out. She has even threatened to talk with the parents - and followed through with said threat. The girl needs to be knocked down a few pegs, but since her teachers think it is so adorable I doubt that will happen at school. I can only hope that there be another child in her class equally as bossy and sassy to put her in her place every now and then.

Work has been crazy busy, I am talking 50-60 hr work weeks. A couple of weeks ago I was asked to attend a conference, I agreed. Then all of a sudden my inbox is being inundated with emails about the conference. I walked down to the VPs office and asked him why I was getting all of that information. Then he shed some light on the subject. When he asked me to attend the conference he was asking me to represent the company and run the booth. He also informed me that I had been named the new marketing rep so to speak for our office. I made a quick joke about discussing salary to which he agreed and we have a meeting set for two weeks after the conference. Now I am going with the goal to bring in at least a couple of jobs, potentially a new contract or two!!

All in all things are working out quite well for us in our new adventures of life as a one parent household. There are times that it is hard, my patients and nerves are worn thin, but I am incredibly blessed to have the support system that I have.

Wednesday, August 17, 2011

New Addition



As if life wasn't busy enough already, we have a new addition to the family...


No I have not been holding out, it is not human:)



Meet Mac, the friendly, cuddly, protective, thinks he's bigger than he is Terrier mix!!





His first day home alone was yesterday, and the only mess was a dumped over food dish. Pretty impressive if you ask me. He is very good about letting you know when he needs to go out, he will walk up to the door and whine a little. He is still getting used to which door actually lets him out, as he walked up to one of the closet doors this morning:). Other than that he is good! I thought we would have to crate him at night and during the day, but being sans crate at the moment, we were testing the waters and I was fully prepared to have a monstrous mess to clean up in the morning and when I came home yesterday. Thankfully, there was no mess. The princess has taken to calling him Macaroni Mackypoo Kloosie - Mac for short. And she is fully enjoying being "The Boss" since "him can't really talk back".


As evidenced below, I will not be able to take late night baths when the kids are asleep unless I completely close my bathroom door. I am not sure if he wanted in or just wanted me out, but my "relaxing bath" lasted about five minutes.



Friday, July 15, 2011

A Quick Side Dish

Here goes, these are the ingredients you will need:



1 8oz can of tomato sauce
1 ½ cups of uncooked rice
1 small tomato diced
1/2 of a small onion diced
1/3 of a small bell pepper diced
few sprigs of cilantro chopped
1 container of Knorr chicken stock concentrate
3/4 tablespoon of minced garlic
1/2 tablespoon of ground cumin
1/2 tablespoon of ground black pepper
1-2 tablespoons of cooking oil
3 cups of hot water



Start by putting the oil into a heated pan (medium high heat will work best) pour in the rice and brown until the rice is lightly toasted.




While the rice is toasting chop the veggies.


Dump the veggies and garlic into the rice, stir then add the spices, and stir again.


Add the four cups of hot water and about 2/3 of the can of tomato sauce, stir.


Bring to a boil. Cover, turn down the heat to medium-low, and cook for 20 min. (it may be best to periodically check on the rice and stir to prevent sticking to the bottom)

After 20 minutes, uncover, fluff the rice and serve as a side to any of your favorite Mexican dishes:)
I did not have all ingredients on hand (i.e. bell pepper and cilantro) but it comes out just as well without them:)

Thursday, July 7, 2011

What Am I Getting Myself Into

As if being a working single mom of three doesn't keep me busy enough, I have decided to do something I have wanted and tried to do for the last eight years. My attempts over the last eight years were unsuccessful for many reasons, mostly because I think I lacked the confidence in myself to fulfill my goal.

Are you chomping at the bit, sitting on the edge of your seat, just giddy with anticipation???

I am going back to school - FULL.TIME!! And working 50+ hours a week at work, football season is about to kick off for the boys next month and Jenna is *almost* old enough for dance classes.

We will be BUSY to say the least. In the grand scheme of things finishing my degree will be a step in the right direction for our little family.

Please pray for my sanity!!!

Friday, June 17, 2011

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Monday, June 6, 2011

A Fresh Start - Part I

I debated long and hard about posting any of this on the blog, but the truth is, what is posted here is my life, and this is a new chapter. I suppose I could have left it all unsaid and maybe the “old” life would just fade away in the background, but I think I owe it to the three people that read here. This is a part one of the story, I am not sure how many parts there will be, but this is the beginning. More to come will be a new blog design and a new URL address, details to come on the later.

Over and over I have alluded to changes, boy have there been!! The last two years has been chaos to say the least, daily prayers asking for guidance, patience, and help, sleepless nights, tears, you name it. But it is over now – the worry is gone, the tears are gone, the sleepless nights are gone. They have been replaced with peace, smiles, laughter and a fresh new start!

One year ago today I made a decision that would change the lives of everyone in my family. I left my husband of seven years a month later. My choice was to leave – things were bad, emotionally horrible, I was having a hard time hiding it. People knew something was wrong, people knew more than I was telling with out me knowing they knew, people kept asking to help, I kept praying God would change things.

One night I lay in bed praying for God to change him, show him what he needs to do, guide him, shine through him. Then I heard it, “You can’t stay, you need to leave.” That was later solidified by the beginning of WWIII that started weeks later at 4am. I began to rationalize what I was hearing, He must mean take a break, God doesn’t want marriages to end. The stigma of divorce to me was so un-Christian-like. Not to say that I don’t know some very devout Christians that have been divorced, but I never thought it would be me. Even more I thought that I could not continue walking in my Faith if I were to get divorced. I felt for a fleeting moment that I would be looked down upon, not revered, and that I would be disappointing people all around me.

Then, I heard Him again and the feeling was gone, “You are precious, you are strong, you can do it.”

My plan was to spend the next few months getting my affairs in order, and planning my escape. Funny how God looks down on us and laughs at “our plans.” Looking back I see why WWIII started that day, He orchestrated a scene He knew I would not be able to put in the back of my mind. All the while I am sure he was telling me “I said leave, why won’t you listen to me?” Knowing full well that after those events there would be no turning back. And there wasn’t. I tried and tried to go back to sleep – to no avail. I thought about packing the kids up in the middle of the night and leaving. But to where? There were five people living in my sister’s 1500 sq ft home, and 4 people in my parents’ home. I had no savings to my name and I thought I had no where to go. And I rethought the idea of packing the kids up in the middle of the night – I would figure it out in the morning.

I called my sister that morning, after a very restless night. She started to tell me to move in with her, I skirted the subject and said I would figure something out. Then my mom called, I said nothing to her, I didn’t want her to know. Then my dad showed up at my door, we talked, I cried, I told him everything, and he told me to pack my bags, he left. I packed my bags, I had two suite cases and fit what ever I could of my things and the kids’ that I knew we needed, my mom pulled into my driveway and helped me load up our stuff. That was the first time in months I felt like I could breathe, there was such a weight lifted off my chest – it’s hard to put into words. As we pulled out of the driveway, I thought I should be sad, I should be crying, I should be at least a little upset, I wasn’t. I vaguely remember smiling as I heard “I am with you.”

Thursday, May 19, 2011

Changes...

I wonder how many posts I have actually written about changes. Hmmm. Well, they're here, and they're here to stay.

Please excuse the dust, so to speak, as I try to clean up the blog a little since it's been re-designed by the one and only Mandy at Hornbuckle Designs. She is incredible, accommodating, and portions of all sales go to charity. It truly is a win-win-win situation:)

We will not be The Silva's any more - it will just be Simple Chaos, the blog link will be changed. I will update you as soon as it is, so the three of you that read here can be sure to go to the right page.

There will be a multi part post coming very soon to shed a little more light on all the changes, but for now, enjoy the new scenery:)

Wednesday, May 11, 2011

Spring Photos

I am sure that you all know in March MckMama was doing photo shoots in Houston. I just had to check it out for myself!!


The kids and I packed up and set for downtown Houston on a Friday afternoon - Spring Break no less. Traffic was atrocious, but it is Houston.

I think the pictures turned out great!!! And honestly - the price was just as great!!! I did some shopping around and I could not get anyone in my area to give me the same deal she did!!

Here are some of my favorites!!!




All of us, and the kids personalities are shining through!! Jenna the "sweet" one, AJ the "good" one, and Jay the "silly" one (who also has a very hard time following directions and not being the center of attention when a camera, or people are around for that matter)


This one I am going to have blown up and hang over my bed - I love it!!! So much so, that I am trying to get the boys to wear their boots and take feet pictures with me - they don't see the big deal, and they think I am weird, but hey, they thought that before I asked them to let someone take a picture of all our feet.

I love his face, and his hair!!! He cut it recently, and as much as I gave him a hard time about how long it was - I miss it!!!
That is Jay through and through - you guys have no clue ho long it took her to get him to crack that smile!! But once he did, it was golden!!
Sassy little princess was in heaven having her picture taken over and over again!!
The three kiddos - I love them so much!!!
Action shots!!!



The princess had to get in on the action too!!

And before you hark on MckMama,

I was standing there and she asked me if it was OK for her to jump

and it was Jenna's idea to begin with.
I love her dimpled arms!!
Brothers:)





Wednesday, May 4, 2011

Reliving the Rodeo

I don't do many posts of mainly pictures, but since it has taken me this long (these are from March) to get them up, I figured it needn't be a long drawn out post, but rather a recap of sorts:)


On our way to the Rodeo, on a big Metro bus...

above: Katy (KiKi), Jenna and AJ, and below: Jay and me


Fishing for treasures at the carnival


Getting on the first ride

This was how Jenna passed her time while the boys rode on rides




The Beetle Bops ride - looked cheesy at first, but they liked it!!

AJ, Jay KiKi and Jenna



AJ, Jay, Jenna and Me



They had to get on it - they ignored the barricades surrounding it, in all honesty the barricades were there because they were closing for the night. The kids only thought they were getting away with something.


Jenna watching the concert


AJ patiently waiting for his favorite song



Jay annoyed that I was still taking pictures


That was Zac Brown - AJ's favorite band, and they did play his favorite song at the very end. They started to end the concert with America the Beautiful, and the look on the kids face was as if someone had kicked his dog right in front of him. Then they lead into "Chicken Fried" and he was as happy as can be!! He even high-fived the guy sitting next to him:) We were right in front of the jumbotron and Jenna kept saying "Mommy, Zac Bwown singing at me" She was very excited and very good for the whole performance!!! Jay loved all the rodeo events prior to the concert and was disappointed when he found out he is to old to participate in the Mutton Bustin' contest. Now he is ready to learn how to ride a bull, at least he thinks he is:)







Monday, April 18, 2011

Houston, we have a problem...

Yes, there is a big problem for us right now. It's called the concessions stand at the ball park!! Jenna's new found love of Skittles may just break the bank. At a dollar a bag, her college fund is quickly diminishing (just kidding, I'm not stealing from her college fund).

I have tried buying them from the store and keeping them in my bag, but the fact is she actually likes to take her dollar and hand it to the person behind the bars and ask for the candy! I have coerced a few of the teenagers that work in there to play along with my little game, I give them a bag just as we arrive, about thirty minutes into the game Jenna is ready for her fix. We go up there, they let her "buy" her bag, and on our way out they give me back my dollar:) It works for now.


How much out of your way or will you go to keep you sanity and your money, how much would you be willing to ask of others?


And honestly, who can say no to this sweet face:) Not that boy/guy/man (he's fifteen ya'll) in the picture, that is "Unca Doe" as Jenna calls him. And he spoils her rotten!!! And she loves him so much!!!

Tuesday, March 29, 2011

Mama's Girl



Jenna is at such a fun age! She picks up on everything, doesn't quite understand it all, but you can almost see the attempt to make sense of it all as she looks at you. Some of the most recent things that she has been doing:



  • I found her sitting on the kitchen floor singing "Happy Party" to the pots and pans. Why? Because they all found their helmets (lids)!!

  • She thinks it is funny to yell "Because I'm the boss, and I said so!" not sure where she got that from;)

  • She carries her Bible everywhere with her and insists that everyone must "Sit down and listen to me and my Bible!!"

  • She loves her brothers and tells them all the time!! AJ is her Joseph AJ (the J stands for Joseph, I don't think she quite understands that the A stands for Anthony) and Jay is her Jay Jay beanie - sadly I think that kid will never live down that nickname.

  • She will attempt to manipulate you by threatening to pee pee in her pants if you don't give her what she wants - this tactic has not worked yet, so hopefully she will never follow through on her end of the deal and we will be all good!

  • Her favorite store is Target, and she wants to go there all the time to buy "Coffee and shoes"

  • She asks everyday for me to let her drive!

  • And the finale ... She asks for money all the time!!! Fifteen dollars to be exact!! Why? Who knows?



Monday, March 28, 2011

Brothers and Sisters

The Rodeo was here, and sadly now is gone I love the rodeo in Houston, if you are ever in town and want to enjoy some deliciously fried goodness, that is the place to go!!! This year I had tickets to Trace Adkins, guys he is AWESOME!!! But more awesome than that, my sister and my two brothers were able to go with me!!! We realized on the way to the rodeo that in the entire 13 years that there have been four of us siblings, we have never done anything together, with out our parents. It was so much fun! It probably helps that I have some of the coolest guys for brothers and one of the greatest girls I know as a sister. But we had fun nonetheless. I could go on, but I am sure it would be a bit boring to all seven of you that read my blog:) I will tell you that we tried the deep fried chocolate dipped Twinkies, and a deep fried smore:) Yumm does not even begin to describe it!!! You should try one or both, though I do not recommend you attempt on your own. You probably have to be some sort of professional deep fryer to accomplish either of those two tasks:)


Katy is the permanent driver, mainly because she refuses to let anyone drive her anywhere!! There may be some minor control issues there, but she will explain why she is completely justified:)

This is Jake - AKA Jakey (Jenna's nickname for him) and he was initially thrilled to be going out on a school night!!

Joe, avoiding the camera!! He is so much like my dad!!

It was Armed Forces Appreciation Day at the HLSR! Amazing presentation of the flag!! Joe still avoiding the camera during the concert
Jake enjoying the concert - I think this was one of the few times he didn't fall asleep:)


Katy and I :)

This man put on an awesome show!!


Very good show!!!

Jake getting a foot massage by that metal plate under his feet - I truly do not understand it even now!!