Friday, October 21, 2011

Bullies

My original post is here, and it still breaks my heart to think that my sweet little monkey went through what he did!!

Stop Bullying: Speak Up



**Re-Posted in Support of the Stop Bullying Speak Up Campaign**
This is what we spent our Friday night dealing with, below is the exact semi-edited version of the e-mail sent to the principals of the school and the teacher. The remainder of the weekend entailed preparing my son to change classes and preparing both of them in appropriate ways to conduct themselves around said child, i.e. find the nearest teacher and asked to be escorted to the principals office to report the encounter, and if there are no teachers in the hall or near by, yell at the top of your lungs " Leave me alone" while you find the nearest adult in the school. Horrifying if you ask me to have to explain the gravity of this situation to a 5 yo and a 6 yo!!

After talking to my son this evening about his day at school there were some very disturbing things he told me. First, he said that the class was separated into groups to take bathroom breaks and “I” was in his group. During their trip to the bathroom, I (we will save his name from Internet viewers) started a conversation with Anthony and said, "I will beat your brother up." Anthony's response was "He is tougher than you." “I” continued by saying, "No he's not, I will bring a knife in my pocket and I will stab your brother and kill him."

With everything that has gone on this year between these two; I was assured that my child was going to be safe and that the two boys would be separated. I understand that you have separated them during PE, Music and Art. It seems as though this is not enough. Not only has he already attacked one of my children on several occasions, but he is now threatening my other son. “I” continues to taunt Anthony by whispering "boobies" during transition periods and while the teacher is testing other students. Most of ”I”’s behaviors have not shown any improvement through out the school year, in fact they are proving to be more violent.

This situation was brought to all of our attentions with Anthony being tripped by “I”, resulting in a broken nose. I am certain that this was discussed with Mr. S the day following the initial incident. After talking to Anthony on a regular basis regarding “I”, it became apparent that we had a "bully" we were dealing with. A few more calls were made to Mr. S to discuss what was going on in the class, i.e. tripping, hitting, kicking, and naughty language being used. Ms. B became involved after we were told of the naughty language and some instances where “I” was throwing basketballs at Anthony's private areas during PE. I was informed the children would be talked to and that “I”’s parents would also be notified of what was going on. Shortly after that, there was a conference scheduled as a result of a highly disturbing and graphic picture drawn by a child in Anthony's class. At this time there were a few other instances that were brought to Ms. B's attention regarding events that transpired earlier that same week. She took note of the allegations and informed us that she would begin an investigation. We have already seen that this child has no problem fashioning a weapon out of a paper clip and using that against Anthony, I have not seen anything this year to show me that “I”’s actions and behaviors are being watched closely and have no reason to believe that he is fabricating the story of bringing a knife to school.

In a time where guns and knives at school are plastered all over the news I cannot be certain that we are far from that in this situation. I want my children in an environment that is safe and secure. I am at a point where I do not know what to do. As parents we have to trust that our children are safe at school and that if they are in an unsafe or uncomfortable situation the teachers and staff at school are caring for them and will protect them from other students. The bullying has continued to progress and we need to resolve this situation fully. Time after time I am told “we are doing all we can do.” Something has to be done before another child has to endure what Anthony has or worse. I am astonished that this is something I even have to discuss regarding Kindergarten aged children.

It has been explained to me that this is not a common occurrence for children of this age, I believe the exact words were “We have never had to deal with a situation like this with children of this age” and “We don’t have an alternative learning center for kindergarten, if this were first grade we would have different options.” We have tried following all the appropriate channels of reporting these instances to come to resolution. My only next option is to contact the district office to get help from them, contact a lawyer to further understand my rights a parent and my child’s rights as a student, and to contact law enforcement regarding the threats and assaults against my children. Obviously these are not the most ideal options for all of the parties involved, however, at this point they are not out of the picture and it is beginning to seem like my only option to keep my children safe.

After all that, I read today on Amy's blog, of this tragedy.

I have to say they may not condone prayer in school but there will certainly be a lot of it for the rest of this year at least!! Here is my prayer for today, for everyone to have a better week and all kids to be safe in their school!

**Re-Posted in Support of the Stop Bullying Speak Up Campaign**

Thursday, October 20, 2011

Life just passes us by

It seems like I spend most of my time running around, always in a rush, like my head just doesn't stop spinning. Life has become a delicate balancing act of what I need to do right now, and what can wait until tomorrow. The sad thing is I feel like I am missing out on a lot.

Everyday, normal, sit down, calm, laugh, sing, dance... my list could go on!! For now my goal is to spend a little extra time up front organizing, so that I have the time to sit, laugh, sing, dance, bake cookies, or snuggle in bed with the kiddos to watch a movie.

Last night we had our first "time out" and not the bad kind either. The "we are gonna take time out to be silly, have fun, and ignore bed time" kind of "time out".

With the cooler weather (Ya'll it's down right chilly - the low was like 53!!) I made a run by the store to pick up some hot chocolate and marshmallows. We got home, cleaned up, ate dinner and got ready for bed. Then we grabbed the blankets and all sat out on the patio with the lights out drinking hot chocolate and looking at the stars.

It was fun!! We will be having lots more "time outs" in our future!!

Thursday, September 15, 2011

Catch Up

The first day of school has come and gone, I am now on class three of the beginning of a new journey to finally get my degree, Mac has taken a trip to the vet, Jenna has moved up to the Pre-School 1 class, I have gotten an awesome opportunity at work and life is over all quite well.

The first day of school was great, the boys like their teachers. There was a minor hiccup that required me to request that AJ - who speaks English well - be removed from the ESL class and put in a class that is better suited to his learning style. Jay did come home the first week with a note saying that he is very silly and very talkative, but frankly that does not surprise me. Had he come home with no note I would have been.

My classes are going well, I am so glad that the format is one class at a time, even though each class is crammed into a five week period, this seems to work much better for me than a traditional semester style course schedule would. So far...3.87 GPA!! Woohoo!!!

Mac received a clean bill of health from the vet, who was quite smitten with Jenna and gave her three toys for Mac for FREE. He does have some knee condition that could require surgery much later on down the road, but other than that they estimated he was about 18 months old, well enough to be neutered, and only suggested he gain about a pound.

Jenna is tall for her age and fits right in with her new class (they are all 6 months to a year older than she is). She is so incredible sassy and has taken up being the teacher's assistant, scolding her classmates and ordering them to sit in time-out. She has even threatened to talk with the parents - and followed through with said threat. The girl needs to be knocked down a few pegs, but since her teachers think it is so adorable I doubt that will happen at school. I can only hope that there be another child in her class equally as bossy and sassy to put her in her place every now and then.

Work has been crazy busy, I am talking 50-60 hr work weeks. A couple of weeks ago I was asked to attend a conference, I agreed. Then all of a sudden my inbox is being inundated with emails about the conference. I walked down to the VPs office and asked him why I was getting all of that information. Then he shed some light on the subject. When he asked me to attend the conference he was asking me to represent the company and run the booth. He also informed me that I had been named the new marketing rep so to speak for our office. I made a quick joke about discussing salary to which he agreed and we have a meeting set for two weeks after the conference. Now I am going with the goal to bring in at least a couple of jobs, potentially a new contract or two!!

All in all things are working out quite well for us in our new adventures of life as a one parent household. There are times that it is hard, my patients and nerves are worn thin, but I am incredibly blessed to have the support system that I have.

Wednesday, August 17, 2011

New Addition



As if life wasn't busy enough already, we have a new addition to the family...


No I have not been holding out, it is not human:)



Meet Mac, the friendly, cuddly, protective, thinks he's bigger than he is Terrier mix!!





His first day home alone was yesterday, and the only mess was a dumped over food dish. Pretty impressive if you ask me. He is very good about letting you know when he needs to go out, he will walk up to the door and whine a little. He is still getting used to which door actually lets him out, as he walked up to one of the closet doors this morning:). Other than that he is good! I thought we would have to crate him at night and during the day, but being sans crate at the moment, we were testing the waters and I was fully prepared to have a monstrous mess to clean up in the morning and when I came home yesterday. Thankfully, there was no mess. The princess has taken to calling him Macaroni Mackypoo Kloosie - Mac for short. And she is fully enjoying being "The Boss" since "him can't really talk back".


As evidenced below, I will not be able to take late night baths when the kids are asleep unless I completely close my bathroom door. I am not sure if he wanted in or just wanted me out, but my "relaxing bath" lasted about five minutes.



Friday, July 15, 2011

A Quick Side Dish

Here goes, these are the ingredients you will need:



1 8oz can of tomato sauce
1 ½ cups of uncooked rice
1 small tomato diced
1/2 of a small onion diced
1/3 of a small bell pepper diced
few sprigs of cilantro chopped
1 container of Knorr chicken stock concentrate
3/4 tablespoon of minced garlic
1/2 tablespoon of ground cumin
1/2 tablespoon of ground black pepper
1-2 tablespoons of cooking oil
3 cups of hot water



Start by putting the oil into a heated pan (medium high heat will work best) pour in the rice and brown until the rice is lightly toasted.




While the rice is toasting chop the veggies.


Dump the veggies and garlic into the rice, stir then add the spices, and stir again.


Add the four cups of hot water and about 2/3 of the can of tomato sauce, stir.


Bring to a boil. Cover, turn down the heat to medium-low, and cook for 20 min. (it may be best to periodically check on the rice and stir to prevent sticking to the bottom)

After 20 minutes, uncover, fluff the rice and serve as a side to any of your favorite Mexican dishes:)
I did not have all ingredients on hand (i.e. bell pepper and cilantro) but it comes out just as well without them:)

Thursday, July 7, 2011

What Am I Getting Myself Into

As if being a working single mom of three doesn't keep me busy enough, I have decided to do something I have wanted and tried to do for the last eight years. My attempts over the last eight years were unsuccessful for many reasons, mostly because I think I lacked the confidence in myself to fulfill my goal.

Are you chomping at the bit, sitting on the edge of your seat, just giddy with anticipation???

I am going back to school - FULL.TIME!! And working 50+ hours a week at work, football season is about to kick off for the boys next month and Jenna is *almost* old enough for dance classes.

We will be BUSY to say the least. In the grand scheme of things finishing my degree will be a step in the right direction for our little family.

Please pray for my sanity!!!

Friday, June 17, 2011

Check Out My Book Review

Head over here now to read it... my review, not the book:)